MY THREE C’S OF FIGHTING

by Alex Lamas

Before one engages in combat, be it for sport or in a real situation of self-defense, we must be mindful of our mental state. Fear will always be present, but courage is having fear and acting anyway. Fearlessness doesn’t truly exist, for all of us have that feeling of fear deep down inside. It’s part of being human. Some of us may feel fear on the surface while others may have it only in the subconscious. Fear will be there, but we have the power to decide if that fear will control us. The “flight or fight response” is part of our genetic code, but a disciplined mind has the power to decide. If one makes the decision to fight, the individual should be mindful of what I call My Three C’s of Fighting:

• Calm
• Cool
• Committed

Calm. You must be relaxed, uncluttered in your mind and unclouded by fear or worry. Anger is deadly—it may give you a rush of adrenalin, but it will also cause one to make mistakes in judgment. If your opponent is calm, he will have the edge of a clear mind and will be able to use your anger against you.

Cool. People who are cool are ready—ready for anything. They’re relaxed, but they are also in a state of readiness and easily adaptable to any situation. Bruce Lee once said, “Do not be tense, just be ready, not thinking but not dreaming, not being set but being flexible. It is being ‘wholly’ and quietly alive, aware and alert, ready for whatever may come.”*

Committed. Often a fight, game, or tournament is decided beforehand by the one who is the most committed. If your opponent can see the level of commitment in your eyes, he or she will most often stand down and choose to walk away. Most people really don’t want to fight, and neither should you. However, if one must make the choice to fight, then it must be a commitment; it can mean life or death. If a person is committed, then most likely the individual will be the one who walks away.

Martial combat is a complex human endeavor, and no one way is the right way and many factors will always be in play. The important thing to remember is that if you are aware of your surroundings, then most likely you can avoid any dangerous situation. I avoided several threatening encounters recently, merely because I was aware of where I was and who was around me. When the would-be assailants realized that I was ready for them, they were the ones to walk away. Most people who are mean enough to cause a person harm will do so only if they can hit the target without the individual knowing what hit them. No one wants confrontation, be they a mugger or an honest person. Only by being ready and aware can one be relatively safe. There are no guarantees, but awareness is more powerful than cautiousness. One stems from wisdom, the other is rooted in fear.

* Bruce Lee, In His Own Words, Dir. John Little, Warner Bros. 1998

Copyright © 2007 Alex Lamas, all rights reserved.